When I think about the first few months after Josie and Mabel came home, I remember that it was a sweet and precious time and such a blur! This has been the same. =] We are still here and doing very well, it’s just been super-busy! Here is our long-overdue post.
We are SO thankful to be home with our sweet Daniel! =] Thank you to each of you who encouraged and supported us through this process! We thank God for him and for you who helped to bring him home through your generosity, prayers and encouragement. Thank you!!! =]
In following others’ adoption blogs, I always wanted to hear more about the first weeks and months home…now I understand why people don’t write more…it’s just so busy! The first few weeks home were pretty exhausting. A huge part of that was jet-lag. I think it was 2 or 3 weeks of being really physically tired, and it took about that long for the girls to get back to a normal sleeping routine. Daniel adjusted very quickly sleep-wise and from the beginning (first night home with us), has been an excellent night-time sleeper (we’re still trying to figure out naps though!).
Another big confusing thing was feeding him. We were told what they fed him in the orphanage but were not allowed to watch them feed him there…and what they said they fed him didn’t seem to work (and to be clear, we aren’t saying they weren’t truthful, just that we didn’t know HOW they were feeding him “sweet bread”, for example, or what exactly they meant by that, etc.) The only thing we could get him to eat for the first few weeks was formula thickened (a lot–like thick applesauce) with rice or wheat baby cereal. He would take that in a bottle with a big hole cut into the nipple. He seemed to choke on thin liquids and pureed foods and it was really hard to know if he was aspirating or just not used to eating that way… were we holding him wrong? was the nipple wrong? He was also spitting up all over, all the time. It was just very confusing. He is doing a lot better now…eating pureed food with a spoon and drinking from a bottle with a regular nipple. He still spits up a lot but we’re working with a feeding clinic and that has helped (mostly we’ve learned to feed him less, more often).
By far the busiest thing though, has just been transitioning from two kiddos to three. Figuring out how to get to the store, feed everybody, get out the door, etc. “Normal” transition-type things that we would have had whether we had a “typical” child or a “special needs” child…whether we adopted or I gave birth. Just learning how to do life with a new little person in our family. :)
People ask how Daniel is doing and he is doing so, so well. He laughs a lot now. He loves to be tickled and lifted up high in the air. He snuggles into my shoulder when I sing to him. He can sit up! He scoots all over the house on his tummy with his little break-dancing move. He loves to be held and will pull at my pants if he wants me to pick him up. He just learned how to clap his hands this week! =] He is much less afraid of all sorts of things. There’s lots more to say and I’ll try to write more later on some of this, but for now know that we are so thankful to have him home. We couldn’t be more blessed. =]